The Alliance for Eating Disorders recommends a simple acronym to help you cope during your loved one’s recovery journey:
- You didn’t CAUSE it.
- You can’t CONTROL it.
- You can’t CURE it.
- You can learn how NOT to CONTRIBUTE to it.
- You need to learn how to COPE with it.
- Take CARE of yourself.
- Avoid PANIC. It prohibits clear thinking and calm reactions.
- Recovery is a PROCESS. Two steps forward, one step back.
- PROGRESS, not PERFECTION, is the goal. PATIENCE is critical.
- RESPOND instead of REACT.
- REMEMBER to listen.
- REFLECT and REASON before you speak.
- RECOVERY is a journey, a long ROAD that may include RELAPSE.
- REACH out to others for love and support.
For more information about resources for loved ones, or to contact Prosperity for assistance, visit our website at www.prosperityedwell.com.
*Adapted from The Alliance for Eating Disorders; www.allianceforeatingdisorders.com
- Life Without ED – Jenni Schafer
- Healing Your Hungry Heart – Joanna Poppink
- 8 Keys to Eating Disorder Recovery – Carolyn Costin, MA, MED, MFCC; Gewn Schubert
- Eating by the Light of the Moon – Anita Johnson
- 100 Questions and Answers About ED – Carolyn Costin, MA, MED, MFCC
- Brave Girl Eating – Harriet Brown
- Eating With Your Anorexic – Laura Collins
- Father Hunger – Margo Maine, PhD
- Parent’s Guide to Eating Disorders – Marcia Herrin, EDD, MPH, RD & Nancy Matsumoto
- Life Beyond Your Eating Disorder – Johanna S. Kandel
*Adapted from the Alliance for Eating Disorders, www.allianceforeatingdisorders.com
DBT Skill for June: Improve the Moment
Some of the ways we can Improve The Moment Are:
- One thing at a time
Here are some examples of putting the skills into action:
When practicing this skill, we are not trying to CHANGE the external circumstance, but rather trying to improve the moment to make it more tolerable (or even more enjoyable) for just this moment.
- “Imagery: Imagine very relaxing scenes…Imagine everything going well. Imagine coping well…
- Meaning: Find or create some purpose, meaning, or value in the pain [that’s what I do with this blog, by the way!]. Focus on whatever positive aspects of a painful situation you can find…
- Prayer: Open your heart to a supreme being, greater wisdom, God, or your own wise mind. Ask for Strength to bear the pain in the moment…
- Relaxation: Try muscle relaxing and tensing each large muscle group…take a hot bath…breathe deeply; half smile; change facial expression…
- One thing in the Moment: Focus your entire attention on what you are doing right now. Keep yourself in the very moment you are in; put your mind in the present
- Take a Brief Vacation: Rent a motel room at the beach or in the woods for a day or two. Ask your roommate to bring you coffee in bed or make you dinner (offer to reciprocate)…Get a magazine or newspaper at the grocery store, get in bed with chocolates, and read it…
- Encouragement: Cheerlead yourself. Repeat over and over: ‘I can stand it,’ ‘It won’t last forever.’ ‘I will make it out of this,’ ‘I am doing the best I can do.'”